Since finding out about my husbands affair 7 months ago, I have gone/going through the same emotions that every woman has written about on this site.
But it wont be the affair that ends our marriage, it will be me not 'letting it go'.  I am obsessed with knowing every single detail.  And I mean every! Everyone says its wrong but I HAVE TO KNOW!
The 11th November was a year ago when I was away with my friends for the weekend he meet her for lunch. It was the only time in the affair that he had a chance to get ready for a date with his 'girlfriend' without me around.  So obviously he made more of an effort. No one was around to question what he was doing.
He has just got annoyed when I asked what he wore!  He also hates me calling her 'his girlfriend'! saying she wasn't his girlfriend and it wasn't a date. But she was and it was!
He said that he can't remember, but when I said that he must remember what he wore when he had a nice lunch, he said that it was not nice. Same as every other bit of info..it was not nice, it was horrible it was dreadful.
Obviously I don't understand human nature.  I know now what he did so why get angry that I want to know where, what, when etc.  After all he is my husband we have been together for 32 years 29 married.
I ask a question and he answers it. I did not ask for this, I did not ask for the pain.  Surely he should do everything I need to get through it!  How does he know that he wouldn't be the same if it was the other way round.
HELP I'm going mad